Understanding Men

Open Letter from Dating Expert and Relationship Coach Matthew Walters on what a man looks for in a soulmate: When I first met Orna, I kept telling her that she was everything I was looking for. I noticed a change within myself that let me know this relationship was very different from all the others. [...]

You’re falling for him, but there’s a voice inside that questions how he feels about you. Just because you feel a connection doesn’t mean he’s on the same page. How do guys get emotionally attached, and what are the signs that he’s falling for you, too? There are a lot of misconceptions about how men [...]

If you’ve ever had a guy come on strong, sending you flowers, texting you constantly, and then disappearing into the guy Bermuda triangle, you may wonder if you recognize the signs he likes you or not. Or maybe there was that one guy who always seemed to be hanging around, but never made the effort [...]

How much time have you spent on a man who wasn’t truly interested in a long-term relationship? Did you find yourself making excuses for his behavior? Or compromising and giving up on what you really want as an attempt to make things work out? Are you wondering how to know if a man loves you [...]

“Dear Orna and Matthew, The crux of my question is this: How long should I wait for him? My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years and I love him and yet I don’t know if it is ever going to work out. He is still dealing with his ex and working through [...]

It can be so maddening dating an emotionally unavailable man. Investing time, energy, and effort into a relationship only to find out weeks or even months later that he is not actually ready for a long-term relationship. Would you like to know how to tell if a guy likes you so that you stop wasting [...]

One of the most common questions women ask us is about a man in love. It seems that many women are unsure how a man feels about them. They ask us, “When a man falls in love, how does he show it?” Do you find yourself looking for subtle clues or hidden signs of love and hoping [...]

Understanding a man has been a quandary for women in general, and the editors of Cosmopolitan Magazine in particular for decades. We receive plenty of very specific questions from our Love On Purpose Community about a man’s behavior and why he did or did not do something, or what this or that may mean about him. [...]

“Dear Orna and Matthew, I’m a weekly reader of your Love Notes and have found much value in your advice. I’ve learned a lot but I’m still struggling because something happened and he stopped chasing me. I don’t know why he’s not pursuing me anymore. Overall I find that the men I’m interested in seem [...]

Understanding how a man thinks is the key to knowing if he is ready to take the next step with you, or if it’s time to move along. It’s important to evaluate his behavior to see if the two of you are on the same page. When you understand how a man thinks, you’ll never [...]